`Abdullâh bin Siwar narrated that Salmân al-Fârasi Allah be pleased with him, once had the intention to betroth a woman from the tribe of Bani Laith, and he took Abu Ddardâ' with him to ask for her hand in marriage on his behalf. When they arrived to that family's house, Salmân waited outside, and Abu Ddardâ' sought permission and entered to speak to her father.
Abu Ddardâ,' spoke highly of his friend Salmân al-Fârisi, his illustrious qualities; his early acceptance of Islam and his lofty companionship of Allah's messenger upon whom be peace. Abu Ddardâ' then informed the family of Salmân's intention. The girl's father replied: "We will not give our daughter in marriage to Salmân, but should it be your wish, we will be honored to give her hand to you in marriage!'" Abu Ddardâ' felt favored and honored to accept the offer, and sometimes later, and under the circumstances of the moment, he only came out of the house hours later being married to the girl.
When Abu Ddardâ' came out of the house, he said to Salmân: "Something else happened here today, and I am ashamed to tell you about it!" Salmân asked: "What is it and why where you there so long?" When Abu Ddardâ' told him the story, Salmân congratulated him and remarked: "I am the one who should be ashamed of himself before you my brother, and for seeking to betroth a woman Allah has destined her to be your wife!
From "The Beauty of the Righteous and Ranks Of The Elite"
(Hilyat-ul Awliya Wa Tabaqâqt al-Asfiya); Philadelphia, 1995